Is there a time in a relationship when sex doesn't matter? I was talking to a friend recently and he said, "I have been married so long, I have forgotten why I have sex with my wife, so I don't." I gasped and looked at him oddly. He said to me, "you have been married for 10 years, don't you wonder?"
I was frankly gobsmacked and must have looked it. Sex matters. It matters a lot. I mean yeah in 10 years it has not always been great sex, but how else do you share your love and affection for eachother? How do you tell your partner non verbally that they matter if you don't touch?
I have another friend, he is unhappy with his marraige, he doesnt have sex with his wife anymore, becuase he cant stand her. I ask him, "how can you lay next to her in bed and not just want to fuck her even if you dont like her." He says he would prefer never to have sex again, than give her even a moment of pleasure because she makes his life such a living hell.
I have another friend, who says she isnt interested in sex, but she does it because she thinks her husband will leave if she doesnt. I agree with her. But how must that sex be? Why would he bother if she just does it so he will stick around.